Hastings and Bexhill Area Breast Cancer Support Group
PAT'S STORY
In November 1999, I discovered a lump in
my left breast. This didn’t come as much of
a surprise as I’d experienced lumpy breasts
from my early 20s, and had had a couple of
small benign lumps removed previously. I
went along to my GP to have it checked out
and he suggested that I have an
appointment at the Conquest Hospital
where Mr Khoury could check it over properly.
I attended the clinic, without any real worries because
of my previous experiences, so was rather taken back
when I was told that the lump in my left breast was ok,
but they were a little worried about the one in my right
breast. I hadn’t even realised that there was one there,
even when I was shown where it was I still had a job to
locate it! However I was also told not to worry because
it was probably ok. An appointment was made for me to
have an ultrasound scan to check things over further.
So confident was I that everything would be ok, that I
attended the ultrasound appointment on my own, so
imagine my shock and horror when I was told that the
lump in my right breast could very well be cancerous. I
don’t remember how I drove home that day and found it
very difficult when I arrived home to put on a brave
face, until some of our young youth club members at
our house at the time. Had gone home I had to have
several other tests spread out over the following weeks
to try and clarify whether the tumour was cancerous, or
not, each one came back inconclusive– it was agonising
waiting for each appointment, I’m so glad to hear that
these tests are now carried out in one day where
possible. All the uncertainty took us over Christmas and
the Millenium New Year, our celebrations were
somewhat subdued.
During my hospital visits I was introduced to Breast
Care Nurse, Pam Shadbolt who reassured both my
husband and I all along the way and was always there
for us, the support was fantastic. Towards the end of
January I was admitted into hospital to have the lumps
removed from both breasts. Following this I was told
that the lump in my left breast was benign, but that
there were cancerous cells around the one in my right
breast and they would need to operate again to remove
further tissue. My husband and I had already spoken
about what might happen next and were both in full
agreement that it would be best to remove the whole
breast and do away with any further risk, so I had my
right breast and some lymph nodes removed in
February. This wasn’t the awful operation I had
imagined it to be, not even that painful really, perhaps it
had all been made easier for me because Pam had
suggested I attended the local support group, where I
met the most fantastic people who really helped to lift
my spirits and feel positive. I will always remember the
kindness of one member who had given me her
telephone number. Two days before my op I rang her,
she too had had a mastectomy, and I asked lots of what
I thought silly questions, she immediately invited me
round for a coffee. Whilst I was there she showed me
her prosthesis, and after I’d questioned her as to what I
might look like after the op, she offered to show me her
scar, I was amazed at the simple white line across her
chest and came away from her home much more
confident about the operation.
After my mastectomy, there was some concern about
cancerous cells that had not shown up on any of the
tests carried out, and I was asked to have a MRI scan to
confirm that there were in fact no cancerous cells in the
other breast. More worries, but luckily nothing showed
up in the scan and so on 31 March 2000 I was able to
start my chemotherapy.
I had six doses of FEC. I imagined having chemotherapy
being the most awful thing to experience, and so was
pleasantly surprised to find that I was never sick, the
thing I’d dreaded the most, and that after a couple of
doses I could plan out my life around the treatments. As
I previously mentioned my husband and I ran a Church
youth group at the time, we continued to do this
throughout the treatment, which was wonderful for my
husband, it put a sort of normality back into our lives,
we attended a pop concert, had days out and I even
went on a residential school trip to London for a week –
although not as a leader as in previous years.
I did lose my hair, which I must admit I did find very
upsetting, I found the worse part was actually losing it.
When it had gone it was easier to cope with. I bought a
wig and with fear and trepidation wore it into school, "I
don’t like your new hairstyle Miss" one child said. "That
ain’t a new hairstyle, that’s a wig," answered another; I
took a deep breath, and then admitted that it was,
explaining as delicately the situation as I could. It was
the best thing I could have done, after the initial
reaction, no-one bothered about it. In fact I have
several amusing wig stories from this time, it helps to
laugh.
Following my chemotherapy I had three weeks
radiotherapy at Maidstone. Again something I’d
dreaded, but all went without a hitch and I was lucky
enough to have different friends offer to drive me to
Maidstone each day which helped out enormously as my
husband didn’t have to take time off work and there was
a petrol shortage on!! My appointments were mid-day,
the trips became more social, as we stopped at a pub
for lunch on the way home.
I returned to work October 2000, I took things slowly,
but I noticed that at each school holiday I needed to
rest a little less and my energy was returning.
Because of the type of cancer that I had, and the fact
that I was told that there was a chance, albeit slim, that
it could occur in my other breast I opted to have my left
breast removed 2 years later. I have never looked back,
or been tempted to have reconstructive surgery and am
completely happy with life.
VALDA'S STORY
It was all over in three hours – the mammogram and
biopsy then the result! Yes, I had breast cancer. Very
fortunately for me, I had a very dear friend, years
before describe the small prickly, slightly fluttering
sensation in her breast, as mine now, which had
prepared me. My son, in his late twenties, two
Macmillan nurses and a breast cancer consultant of plus
thirty years’ experience had a discussion as to the best
treatment and medication. This all took place at the
"Parapet" Breast cancer Unit in Windsor.
Oh, I had the nipple "piercing", as I call it, at another
Cancer Unit in Reading, was peeved that the dye was
green and not blue. Didn’t match my undies! And no
studs!! However the discussion for my treatment was of
course surgery – done and dusted within 10 days at
Heatherwood Hospital, Ascot. I missed the races at the
Grand Stand, as in a bit of a haze that May and June.
Once on Arimadex (Anastrazole) I really, really felt the
difference from the side effects, as normally I was a PR
– host in a large leisure centre, ran children’s parties
and hosted also assisted, organised, large companies
activities.
The effects of Arimadex made me perspire profusely and
this was face, neck hands and arms, thankfully it was
quite a hot summer. I drank much cold water and went
through masses of tissues. Some nausea at times.
The long and short of it is, I continued working for a
year, no one knew of my breast cancer, and I rarely
discussed it even with my family of son, daughter and
two grandsons, only with the medical profession. I
found much ignorance and fear, my then hairdresser
literally screamed when I quietly told her, and shrieked
"How did you catch it?" I thought she was going to have
a heart attack and got her a glass of water. Explanations
are useless!
Now, I am in a retirement complex, sheltered
accommodation, in Bexhill on Sea. A cool flat, the Pink
Ladies and two or three good local friends. My family in
Berkshire visit and I journey, by train or car, to stay with
them approximately every three months. My five years
in remission may soon be up. Hooray!! The Conquest
now cares for me.
BERNICE'S STORY
I was diagnosed with breast cancer in
March, on my birthday, in 2011. From
this moment on my whole world was
turned upside down, questions I had,
with no answers why, why, why me?
Only having my husband and two young
teenage children to talk too, there were
things they didn’t understand. They
didn’t really understand what I was going through.
When returning back to the hospital, after all the
treatment, in September I was feeling quite depressed
when I noticed a poster for 1066 Pink Ladies Breast
Cancer meetings. So I phoned up to find out more and
spoke to a lady called Pat, who was very helpful and
understanding and put me in touch with another new
lady, so we travelled together to the meeting. On the
day of the first meeting I was having a low day, so at
times I was going to cancel, but I didn’t.
On the way to the meeting my stomach was in turmoil,
when arriving there I was welcomed with open arms and
made to feel totally at ease. I felt safe. All I was going
through and had been through, so had all these other
ladies, at times my eyes filled with tears and when I
looked around the room at the others they smiled, they
knew.
When the meeting finished I felt so uplifted. I felt
supported by the group and really looked forward to the
next meeting.
I was pleased I had gone; I was determined to carry on
with my life.
PAM'S STORY - Experiences of a retired Breast
Care Nurse
The post of Clinical Nurse Specialist in breast care was
set up in 1995 with the help of Macmillan cancer
Research, and having completed the Advanced Breast
Care Course at the Royal Marsden I was lucky enough to
be appointed to set up this new post.
Working with the multidisciplinary team in hospital and
community was very enjoyable and I rapidly made many
contacts with a whole range of health professionals with
whom I could work. Most of these were only too pleased
to acknowledge that there was a need for a specialist
who would be able to give individual attention to breast
cancer patients in order to meet their various needs.
Each day I met patients in clinic and spent time with
them explaining and supporting them at diagnosis and
throughout their treatment and care, often helping to
choose options when that was necessary trying to pace
information , both written and verbal, for them and their
families.
Everyone had contact details so they could ring at any
time and expect a rapid response. Appointments could
be made and there was also a drop-in facility on a
Friday morning.
Each week there was a multidisciplinary meeting when
surgeons, oncologists, radiologists, radiographers,
pathologist and breast care nurses met to discuss lab
reports and draw up treatment plans, This was later
relayed to the patient and I would often spend time
clarifying this to make sure that everyone really
understood what was happening to them and that they
had a say in this.
Other aspects of the role included arranging prosthetics,
a Headstrong visit to support those who were losing
their hair through chemotherapy, financial and social
support via appropriate agencies, and emotional help
with complimentary therapies and the support group.
All in all I have been privileged to work with a host of
lovely people and I just hope that I was of some help to
them at such difficult times.
Comment:
Pam along with a team of colleagues was responsible for
starting up this support group in 1981, and still
regularly attends our meetings - I think everyone would
agree that she certainly has been able to help many of
us through difficult times.
Asking members of the group to recall their breast
cancer stories is not always an easy task.
Most of us would rather look forward than back to a
time fraught with worries and fear. However, we like to
give hope to those recently diagnosed, just look at some
of those dates! Treatments may have changed but we
are still here and enjoying life in 2017.